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Is There a Correlation Between Proximity to Field of Play and Fan Behavior?

Does the proximity of fans to the field of play in a youth sports event directly correlate to the behavior of the fans?

I’ve been thinking about this for a while. Well, ever since my kids started playing basketball. To be honest, I blog more during basketball season than any other season. There’s just so much content to be written about with basketball fans. I’ve been wondering why this is?

Our kids play soccer, field hockey, basketball, softball, and baseball. Between my husband and me, we have over 27 years of coaching experience, we attend numerous sports events other than the ones our children participate in. Therefore, I think I’ve witnessed a variety of sports, to make these observations.

“Sports psychologists are now trying to better understand why a growing number of parents are becoming increasingly emotionally overinvested in their children’s athletics.” – NY Times

Is it because basketball is an intense sport? Is it because the fans are in closer proximity to the action? One could argue that there are other intense sports, or that soccer fans are in close proximity to the action. While I agree with both these statements, I’ve come to realize a few things that make basketball different. While football and soccer are both contact sports it’s different than basketball. In football and soccer, the action is in spurts. Football action lasts mere seconds and then begins again. Soccer has lag due to the size of the field and the spacing of players. These differentiators make me believe that basketball fans are a more intense bunch.

My observations have been witnessing the rise and fall in the emotion at basketball games. If the level of play on the court is very physical (maybe even dirty), there seems to be a rise in intensity or tension, both on the court and in the stands. The emotions of coaches and players ooze right into the stands. It’s so hard to explain, but you literally can feel it in the gym. The opposite is true too if the game is running smoothly and coaches are calm, the fans seem to be less boisterous.

So, what are your thoughts? Do you think I’m on to something? Do you think fan proximity or the intensity of the sport directly influences the emotion of the crowd? Or do you totally disagree?

Here’s a few other articles that are relevant to this conversation:

Knowing Your Role: The Parent

Understanding the Sports Parent Psyche (notice I said “Psyche” not “Psycho”)


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Save the Drama for Someone Else’s Mama

WARNING! Rant ahead…

High school ended 20 years ago for me, however sometimes being involved in youth sports makes me feel like I’m right back there. I’m not talking about the “passion” that parents have when their kids are involved. I’m referring to the unnecessary “noise” that some parents partake in. In high school I never really understood it, but I knew teenagers were immature. In my adulthood, I have an even harder time grasping the concept. I don’t understand what has ever come of talking about people or situations to other people (the one’s not involved). It’s called gossip; the actual definition is casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. This is constantly happening in the bleachers, in restaurants, on the streets, everywhere, and it needs to stop. What kind of example are we to our children by continuing this trend?

What’s got me so worked up?

I was recently approached by a parent whom wanted to confront me on rumors they had heard. While I appreciate being confronted so they could hear the truth, I’m saddened by this turn of events. I’m sad this person believed what they had been told. I can’t help the things people make up or say about other people, but I can control my own actions and be true to myself. I was also angry with those other people and the untrue messages they were putting out there. The messages were put out with the sole intent of creating drama. I try and steer clear of it, but on almost every team there’s one or two people who love the drama. If you’re one of these people, you need to stop. You need to find something better to do with your time other than gossiping about people you know.

How do we fix this?

It’s like bullying. We talk to our kids about how to handle bullies. Adults need to do the same thing. The way to quell this is to not participate in it. If you do get caught in it, seek out the truth (like this parent did) but let it end there.